Guestlist

It's that time!

Time for the dreaded, "I better be invited."

Time for that one crazy second cousin's uncle's brother, to get mad that he wasn't invited.

Time for that old friend, that you use to be really close with, to ask where her invite is.

Time for those awkward conversations!

Yes, we finished our guestlist... and let me tell you, it was no easy feat. Our guestlist is super small (compared to the 300+ names we originally started with) since we're having an intimate destination wedding (yay!). Although we wish we could invite everyone, it's just not reality.

All my newlywed friends kept telling me, "wait until you get to the guestlist," "people get so pushy over the guestlist," "you'll hurt a lot of feelings doing your guestlist."...but I never thought it would be that bad. I definitely underestimated their statements!

It really is difficult to go down a list and cross people off without feeling bad.  More than half the people who were crossed off the list, are dear to us in some way... But it had to be done.  Anthony and I went back and forth for a few weeks trying to narrow it down, but it got to the point where we had to say, "sorry, but hopefully they understand."

...so, we're SORRY, but hopefully you understand!...

Our guestlist isn't even a quarter of the original list; some family members aren't even being invited, some childhood friends aren't being invited, no co-workers, no kids, etc.  At the end of the day, it comes down to the capacity of our venue, and our relationship/bond with certain people in our life.

We hope people can be understanding and not take anything too personal. We hope people can take things into perspective and just be happy for us!

We hope that all of you who unfortunately cannot be invited to the wedding, will still join us for a big engagement party to celebrate! (details coming soon)

And to those of you who are invited-
This cute little picture is for you! =)

-L's

My Priority!

I've never been the girl who dreamed about her wedding; I don't know what colors I want, I couldn't tell you the difference between wedding dress fabrics, and up until a couple years ago I never even knew there were bridal showers. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE weddings! I think they're beautiful, romantic, and hella fun... I just never really pictured my own.

From day one (after the proposal), we were inundated with questions regarding a date, venue, color scheme, etc. And of course we got numerous accounts of the dreaded, "I better be invited," which ironically usually come from the people who most likely won't receive an invite!  Maybe other brides like the million and one questions, but I DON'T!  

Now, before you go on and call me a b!t(h, I know the questions come from a place of love and I really do appreciate the interest.  However, please realize that you are not the only one asking these questions, I had 12 other texts calls, and emails to respond to before yours. And if you keep asking me questions, daily, I will never have time to even THINK about planning a wedding. Friends and family, I love you... but please let us breath and enjoy this process.

Not only do the questions and suggestions make my anxiety shoot through the roof, but most of them are irrelevant to the bigger picture. I never dreamed of my wedding, and till this day, my wedding is not my main priority.  I am so excited to be MARRYING THE MAN of my dreams, that everything else is secondary.  I would even be happy going to the court house, it's all the same to me, because the end result is being married to my best friend.  

I don't want to spend tons of time planning a wedding, when I can spend that time strengthen our relationship.  I don't want to spend tons of money on a wedding, when we can continue to save for our future home.  Please understand that this wedding is not my priority, my relationship is.  After all, the wedding is only one day, the first day of our long journey ahead.

-L's